19 Conversation Ideas for Your Girlfriend That Will Make Her Smile
It’s completely normal to sometimes not know what to talk about. When emotions take over, we can easily forget everything we wanted to say especially when the person in front of us is someone truly special and we don’t want to mess things up.
Why Do You Run Out of Things to Say With Your Girlfriend?
There can be several reasons why conversations suddenly feel awkward with your partner. One of the most common is a lack of confidence either from you, from them, or from both sides. When one person doesn’t feel fully comfortable in the relationship, it can make conversations feel forced or unnatural.
Awkward silences are inevitable sometimes. With time and experience, they usually become less of an issue. But what can you do right now so you don’t freeze up when talking to your partner?
How Do You Start a Conversation Naturally?
First of all, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. No one said you have to be the one who leads every conversation. After all, a real conversation always involves two people.
Keep in mind that the more nervous you feel, the harder it becomes to communicate naturally. People are naturally drawn to confidence. If you can show that confidence even in a relaxed and simple way it can make the conversation flow much more easily instead of pushing the other person away.
The first tip I’m going to give you is to think of her as a friend. Don’t feel like you owe her a constant stream of conversation, because that’s not how it works.
When you talk with friends, you’re simply present and enjoying the moment. The same happens when you’re with people you consider family. Familiarity feels comfortable and it removes the pressure of trying to impress someone.
When you feel like you have to impress her, you often fall into the trap of talking nonstop. But not everyone communicates that way and remember, a relationship doesn’t require endless conversations to work.
What truly matters is that both of you feel completely comfortable around each other, whether you’re talking or simply sharing a quiet moment. And there are several ways to create that kind of comfort.
Create Topics That Only the Two of You Understand
If you want things to talk about, you need to create experiences. These can be individual experiences you later share or moments you create together. The experiences you share as a couple often lead to inside jokes, special phrases or little signals only the two of you understand.
These kinds of memories naturally create great conversation topics later on. A good idea is to start creating situations that lead to funny or memorable stories. Try doing things that are a little different from your usual routine maybe even something completely new or unusual for both of you.
How to Know What to Talk About When You’re on the Phone With Her
Phone conversations are surprisingly important in a relationship. They can bring you closer together or create distance if they don’t go well. That’s why it’s important to be thoughtful about how you handle them.
Here are a few simple rules that can help make your phone calls more enjoyable.
Rules for Talking With Your Girlfriend on the Phone
Don’t call when you know she’s busy.
Avoid calling too often let the calls feel special for both of you.
Don’t talk the entire time. Give her space to respond.
Don’t interrupt when she’s speaking.
Pay attention don’t multitask while you’re on the phone.
Make an effort to ask how she feels and what she’s been up to, but don’t overdo it.
Silence doesn’t have to be awkward if you know how to keep things light and relaxed.
Once you keep these things in mind, you can start thinking about what you should and shouldn’t talk about during a phone call with your girlfriend.
Things You Should Talk About
Your day or how her day went
Something interesting you heard or learned
A funny or memorable story from the past
Try to make her laugh
Plan a date or something fun to do together
Talk about future plans
Playfully ask how well her family might like you
Things You Shouldn’t Talk About
An ex-girlfriend
Comparing her to someone else
Being overly negative or venting too much
Starting arguments about sensitive topics
Staying silent for long periods of time
Asking her to change something about herself or telling her what she should or shouldn’t do
Now that you understand what you shouldn’t do, the next step is learning how to guide the conversation in the right direction. How can you do that? Follow these tips:
Always end what you say with a question. For example: “What do you think?”, “How would you have handled it?”, or “How was it for you?”
Don’t talk for very long periods (unless she’s laughing and you’re telling a story).
Keep the conversation varied don’t stay on the same topic too long.
Don’t go back to unfinished conversations from earlier. If a topic ended halfway, let it go.
If you follow these guidelines avoid the topics you shouldn’t mention, focus on the ones that work and apply the basic rules mentioned earlier your conversations will flow much more naturally.
What Should You Talk About on WhatsApp?
Chatting has several advantages. You can talk while doing other things at the same time. But what really matters in texting conversations is this:
Reply quickly most of the time (this shows interest).
Show that you have your own life and responsibilities (this actually makes you more attractive).
Take time to listen to what she wants to share.
Use emojis, stickers, GIFs, videos, memes or photos to keep the conversation fun.
This may not apply to every relationship, but it works for the vast majority of them. If you follow these ideas, your conversations will naturally stay engaging.
So What Should You Talk About With Your Girlfriend Over Chat?
The key is to take advantage of these tools. Once you keep that in mind, try to choose topics that fit these principles:
Talk about things you both know or have in common.
Share things that feel meaningful or important to you.
Change topics occasionally so the conversation doesn’t feel repetitive.
Talk about something from your day or future plans use the past mainly for funny stories.
Share your opinions about things you’ve both experienced.
Learn about what she likes and ask questions about it.
You decide the limits of the conversation, but don’t overwhelm her with huge blocks of text. Instead, send several shorter messages rather than one very long one. Why? Because long messages increase the waiting time for a reply and she might switch to something else or another chat.
Show interest by replying when you can and try opening conversations with something funny or playful. It usually works very well.
What Should You Talk About on an In Person Date?
Talking face to face can seem much harder than texting, but there’s one crucial thing you should understand if you want the conversation to flow naturally in person:
First, you should build a great connection through messages and phone calls.
Fortunately or unfortunately these days the ways we connect the most and often the best are through text messages or voice calls. Why? Because they remove much of the pressure that comes with being face to face in public.
That’s why, if you want to have a great conversation with him or her, you should try to create the right situation for that talk especially if it’s your first date or one of your first few outings together. Let me explain why.
When going out for the first time in a “serious” context, both of you may feel a bit distrustful, which can make conversation scarce. Add to that being somewhere sunny, with traffic and noise it can turn a date into a disaster.
On the other hand, if the date takes place under a tree in a quiet spot with some good, healthy food, the whole experience changes. Of course, finding perfect situations isn’t always easy.
Even less easy is finding them naturally, so sometimes you’ll have to create them yourself. How? You don’t need to be a genius, but you do need to keep a few things in mind:
Best situations for conversation:
- Pick a private spot where you can hear each other without distractions.
Make sure there’s some presence of others nearby it helps with comfort and confidence.
Keep it affordable; no need to spend a fortune on a first date.
Avoid the movie theater.
Once you know this, start thinking about nearby parks, quiet rural spots, benches or cozy areas where you can sit. The exact location doesn’t matter if she’s the right person, the place won’t matter either.
The absolute best spot? Either of your living rooms, a good movie and some snacks the perfect date. But it could also be a field or a mountain depends on both of you.
Best questions to spark conversation quickly:
In person conversation starters:
Aren’t you hungry?
Did you do something different? You look lovely.
Have you ever dreamed about me? I did I dreamed that… (make something up)
Do you like this kind of music?
Honestly, did you like me from the start or not?
Have you ever lied to me about anything?
What was the first thing you noticed about me?
What about me would you never want to change?
Do you think trees have life?
Text/Chat conversation starters:
What did you want to be when you were little?
If you could teleport anywhere right now, where would you go?
How true is it that you like sports?
What’s your favorite dish?
What’s your favorite place in the world?
What do you love most about life?
Where have you always wanted to travel?
Do you play any instrument or sing?
Do you like to dance?
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Haha 😄 sometimes doing nothing works… but what would YOU say to make her smile?